Workbook · Part I
Lesson 68
Love holds no grievances.
What this lesson is saying
“Love holds no grievances.” Search for major ones, then the minor ones you hold against people you like or think you love. There will be no one left out.
A grievance is a decision to keep seeing a different kind of being than God created. Dropping it is not denial of events. It is denial that events get to author anyone. You do not have to hang out with them. Gossip about them costs you the sitting.
This is not saying
This is not a command to stay, to call, or to drop a boundary that is actually love. Love can say no. Love does not keep a case.
Why this can change a day
The resented person is a savior: forgiveness of them eases your loneliness. Being right is a poor wage. This lesson is revolutionary because it includes the people you like — the ranking you call standards.
In your day
Same idea, three ordinary places — a relationship or encounter, the case against yourself, and a situation at work or at home. You do not need a special mood.
With someone you resent
The grievance is your companion. Being right is your wage. They must pay first.
What to do
Name what the grievance is giving you — being right, being owed. Put that down. Determine to see them as a friend in the mind. Keep any boundary that is actually love.
With someone you like
You greet someone you think you love, and still rank them — late, messy, not trying.
What to do
There will be no one left out, including the ones you like. Drop the ranking. Speak as you normally would.
Toward yourself
The grievance against you — I should be further, better, less.
What to do
Love holds no grievances, including this one. Same dropping. Then the next decent action.
Two voices in the same mind
Hear which one is running. Then today’s idea, on a real person — or on you.
Unloving thought
The grievance is my companion. Being right is my wage. They must pay first. I’ll tell someone who will agree. Even someone I like is not exempt — they should try harder.
Jesus’s way
Love holds no grievances. Search for major ones, then the minor ones you hold against people you like or think you love. There will be no one left out. You do not have to hang out with them. Gossip about them costs you the sitting.
Spalding · 2019 · episode #266
Jesus’s commentary for Lesson 68
Tina reads the official workbook lesson first. Then she channels. The video is the source. The notes below are study notes of that sitting — not a transcript, and not A Year of Forgiveness.
After the reading
In the video · Jesus speaking
This is the channeled portion — after Tina has read the lesson. Study notes of that sitting. Not a transcript.
- Love holds no grievances.
- The resented person is a savior: forgiveness of them eases your loneliness.
- Gossip about them costs you miracles.
- You do not have to hang out with them.
- The work is in the mind.
How to sit today
Part I · Function
The idea is above. This is the one sitting this number asks — how often, how long, and the words. Not a second lesson.
- How often
- One extended sitting plus frequent reminders
- How long
- Ten to fifteen minutes
- When shaken
- The moment a grievance feels justified, this is the sitting in miniature.
How
- Search for those against whom you hold major grievances, then the minor ones you hold against people you like or think you love. There will be no one left out.
- Determine to see them as friends. Apply: love holds no grievances. Ask to see them without the claim.
Longer sitting
One extended sitting — ten to fifteen minutes
- Today’s idea is: “Love holds no grievances.”
- Search for those against whom you hold major grievances, then the minor ones you hold against people you like or think you love. There will be no one left out.
- Determine to see them as friends.
- Say, slowly: “Love holds no grievances. I would behold [name] as my friend.”
Short / hourly
Frequent reminders
- Say, slowly: “Love holds no grievances.”
When shaken
The moment a grievance feels justified
- Say, slowly: “Love holds no grievances. I would behold [name] as my friend.”
These scripts follow the workbook’s own method for this number — duration, frequency, and the sentences it asks you to use. They are a study paraphrase, not a replacement. Read the official lesson at acim.org and follow any wording it gives that is more specific than this card.
Words you may not know
Full glossaryCourse words do not mean what church, psychology, or ordinary English usually mean. These notes are for this lesson — tap a word.
Other voices — Tina, Ra, Carla
Short notes from the four streams. The teaching above is the lesson. These are doors if you want them.
Spalding
Love holds no grievances. The resented person is a savior: forgiveness of them eases your loneliness. Gossip about them costs you miracles. You do not have to hang out with them. The work is in the mind.
Watch this lesson’s commentaryRa
Blocked heart (green) cannot polarize to harvest. Grievance is the block, rehearsed until it feels like personality.
Open streamRueckert
Q'uo: the one before you is the Creator while pretending. Love holds no grievances because it does not believe while pretendings as final.
Open stream